Toys!

He says it is not respectful. He thinks it is a gateway to “worse” things.

Hmm. An interesting perspective. I’ve always seen them the way I see any helpful tool. A spatula in the kitchen. A wrench in the garage. A vibrator in the bedroom. I see the goal of sex generally as connection through mutual pleasure. More pleasure has never reduced my own sense of connection nor respect.

Thank you! I was like that until recently. However, if you think about it, men love gadgets and tools. Hubby has SOOOO many tools. This should be just another tool.

I don’t know if I should share this and who might think poorly of me but, after I became more open minded sexually I actually bought a couple dildos that I hide from hubby. I know, I know. Hiding is not good and I am totally justifying it but I like them…. a lot!