I am interested in the position of this forum on various topics. To start, are instructional videos like how to massage your partner erotically considered pornography? Are they ok to share with a partner? Is it ok to watch alone to improve skills for partner?
I would love to hear why you think it is/isn’t.
Personally, I think it's especially important to consult with a spouse and follow the Spirit on all questions such as this, since the spirit of any law, including the Law of Chastity, can only be understood in context. I always understood Church standards to have the strengthening of individuals and families as their guiding principle. As Dr. Finlayson-Fife might ask, "Does it add goodness to your relationship?"
Obviously, nudity in videos is not always inherently bad, since it is shown to some degree in normal massage videos and medical training videos. The question most would probably pose is whether or not the intention of watching is to inspire arousal or not. I would ask not just whether arousal is a factor motivating the viewing but whether or not any arousal that does come from it will be used to bless your marriage.
I would add that if my wife wanted to watch videos of hoe to improve her pleasure, I'd be 100% ok with that. Alone or with me! As long as we benefit from it!
I think I you are on board with it and so is your spouse then why not? My wife and I feel like that with all things. For some anal is what both partners are into and for others one may be against it. So who is wrong for doing anal? In my opinion it's the one who has the partner against it.